On Saturday we went to a secondary school open day and it has been extremely interesting.
This reminded me that I wanted to talk about another big change we went through while absent from these pages…with a drizzle of complaint about the world and society!
Nothing too heavy or long, I promise, as I don’t want to compromise the mood of my blog in any case. The issue is long gone, but I want to share it with you anyway, mostly because this episode bothered me and my daughter and, by venting here, I hope I could help someone else, saying they’re not alone and that you can find a solution!
Maya had been in the same school since she was 4 and half and it looked like a real nice one.
However, in the past two years something changed. Some of the girls became bolder and more aggressive and she didn’t manage to find a way to protect herself.
As you might remember we joined a dojo around the same time, mainly to try and create a safe spot for her and, at the same time, make sure to boost a bit her self confidence.
After the quarantine and the home schooling period the situation precipitated.
The girls in that school became more aggressive, there had been many cases of violence in between pupils in several classes. We complained with the school, I had many calls with the teacher and the principal, but the school wasn’t able to control or solve the problem.
My daughter was poked, pushed on the stairs, slapped, choked with her own coat, abused verbally, just to name a few episodes. And guess what, after every call I made, the situation got worse.
We were so lost that we even consulted her favourite karate sensei for advice. He confirmed what we knew, such as that she shouldn’t fight back until it was strictly necessary; also he said that the solution would be to try her best to become a warrior monk, whose primary skill would be rage control. (An advice I took for myself too, as sometimes I struggle with my anger!)
Maya tried really her best, but we reached a point where I stopped sleeping for the fear she was pushed badly on the stairs and would break something the next day.
Hence we decided to move her in another school and start afresh.
She was super excited after finding our she’d be in class with one of her oldest and best friend who moved from her old school a couple of years earlier. She managed to adapt extraordinarily quickly to the new school life and mingled with all the kids in her class. She also joined different school activities and is very happy.
Despite my happy ending I am still wondering from time to time about our past experience. I’m not sure what happened exactly, but it seems that this long quarantine took the worst out of people and also those bad habit or behaviours constantly and steadily worsened. In kids this is more evident.
Luckily they’re not all like this, as Maya attended also karate camps at the dojo the whole summer and she had so much fun she wanted to live there!
So where does the difference stay? Who’s responsible for this? I have my opinion, but I would like to know what you think in the comments below! Write to me!
I’ll talk to you soon.